June | Honor Thy Father Tag

DollFace writer has tagged me for the monthly tag we create together! For these tags, I help her come up with an idea, think up some questions and she brings it to life every month. She’s so good at this stuff! Go check out her blog at https://dollfacedwriter.wordpress.com/

Thank you for the tag DollFace. ❤

Here were go…

Dollface writes,

Hi, everyone! I hope you all had a great month of May, hopefully April showers brought some May flowers! 😀

This month, continuing our theme from last month with our May | Honor Thy Mother Tag, we are honoring our father’s for Father’s Day. To be honest, this day is a very hard day for me. I hope my explanation of the meaning of this tag helps explain why and, if anyone has a difficult time honoring their father like I do, I hope it helps someone. ❤

The Meaning of this Tag:

A father is someone who loves his child unconditionally, provides for them, protects them always, teaches them values, disciplines them fairly, and wants the best for them. For that, we should always, ALWAYS have respect for our fathers. They are created to bear the responsibility of caring for and protecting their families just as God calls them to do. Father’s Day is about reminding your father how much you appreciate him, but I hope this tag will perhaps remind you this month how blessed you are to have a father at all.

As I said before, this is a very hard day for me every year. My father and I have a very complex relationship. In fact, it is the polar opposite of my relationship with my mother. Growing up I felt abandoned, rejected, unloved, forgotten, and neglected because of his behavior that stemmed from alcoholism and what I believe could have been other mental health issues (don’t quote me, I’m not a doctor XD).

I will always love my father. He is a part of me, half of me to be exact. However, mustering the strength to honor or respect him at all has taken a long time to do. We talk sometimes over text, but not a lot. Some days he responds and I feel like we’re getting somewhere, then he vanishes like he always did. It has helped living a thousand miles away from him since finishing high school, but I have come to accept the pain I feel from my childhood will never go away. Recently, in the last week actually, he said something that has proven he’ll never change. I was trying to gain closure, but he continues to blame me for things that I may talk about in another post. Anyways, he may move on in his life, which is painful for me to watch, but that doesn’t change the past he continues to deny and blame me for.

If you have a similar situation, whether you have been abused, manipulated, abandoned, or rejected by your father (even someone else in your family), can I give you some advice that has helped me cope with such a toxic relationship?

You have a choice. You can walk away. You can block a number. You can say no. You can cut them off from your life. That doesn’t mean you don’t honor them, that just means you have enough respect for yourself to protect your heart and enough respect for them to love them at a safe distance. You can pray for someone every day and never talk to them again. Isn’t that better than subjecting yourself to more pain and building up further resentment that could become the poison of unforgiveness? I think so, because no one deserves to be abused in any way. You deserve love. If you don’t/didn’t receive that love from your father, always know you have a Father in Heaven who loves you more than your father ever could. ❤

I hope you do have an awesome father though. If you do, give him a bear hug and be grateful to have the best protector you could have on this earth. If you don’t, pray for him, friend.

Make Every Word Count,

Dollfaced Writer

Here are the rules:

  1. Thank the person who nominated you to participate.
  2. Use the original featured image.
  3. Copy and paste the introduction and meaning of this tag at the beginning of your post, along with the links to both creators’ original posts. *This rule is very important. Please, please link this post and Dollfaced Writer’s post so that as authors we may be alerted when a tag is published. It also gives us proper credit, which is much appreciated. Thank you ❤
  4. Answer the questions.
  5. Nominate one or more people to participate.
  6. Enjoy the rest of your month! 🙂

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Here are the questions for this month’s tag:
1. What is your relationship like with your biological father, if anything at all?
2. What is one thing you would change about your father if you could? What is one thing you wouldn’t change?
3. Who do you celebrate on Father’s Day (your father, step-father, grandfather, uncle, etc.)?
4. What was the most valuable thing he taught you?
5. What is one thing he does that you would never do?
6. How do you honor him on Father’s Day?
7. How has your relationship with him impacted the person/parent you are today?

Here are my answers:
1. What is your relationship like with your biological father, if anything at all?

Our relationship is good. I see him once a week usually. I wish I could see him more. I would do pretty much anything for him. I love and respect my father more than any man on earth. ❤

 

2. What is one thing you would change about your father if you could? What is one thing you wouldn’t change?

Hmmm… I would change how he never seems to understand me or my emotions.  I am a very emotional being. I love him more than he will ever know or understand. 

I wouldn’t change his belief in God or how determined he is to reach the world for Jesus. 

 

3. Who do you celebrate on Father’s Day (your father, step-father, grandfather, uncle, etc.)?

It depends on who I’m with and who I’m around! My father (always), my Man, and my brothers if I can. It really depends on the situation. My grandfathers are no longer with us. 

My Papaw (father’s dad) was a fiery Pentecostal preacher. I didn’t get to see him very much, holidays usually. We lived in different states. He always wore his “Pastor clothes”, dress pants, dress shirt… etc. He smelled of Listerine. The gold one I think. . I liked to have vanilla ice cream with him at night before bed. But before we could all go to bed, he would have everyone gather together and get on their knees in the living room for prayer. That man could pray! My father and my uncles were all pastors. Having 3 of them in the same room praying was something to see. Wow! They could call down Heaven and I have so much respect for men of God. They were the spiritual leaders and they didn’t play. My Papaw was A LOT like my father. He didn’t have any daughters and was not very affectionate towards me. He was kind, just prim and proper. When he got behind that pulpit, he was a real fireball. He was a wonderful example of a man on fire for God. 

My step-grandfather (mother’s step-dad) was the most affectionate man to me when I was a child I think. He was sweet. As a little girl, I remember him carrying me and letting me rest my head on his shoulder after service one night. He always wore his suit to Church and smelled of cologne. I loved riding in his old pick up truck when he picked me up to go see my grandma or take me home. He gave me the BIGGEST hugs. I really loved him. Before he passed, I was one of his caregivers. He LOVED to sing hymns and he would sit in his chair in the living room singing along with people on TV like the Gaither Vocal Band. I took him to Church sometimes and he would cry while singing. We weren’t blood but he was the BEST grandpa to me before his Alzheimer’s got so bad. We had a special relationship I guess. I miss him. 

My biological grandfather (mom’s dad) I never really knew. This was unfortunate. I hear he was a very talented, very good man. 

I think all men who have children, help take care of children or are mentors to children should be celebrated in some way. Even if it’s just a simple, “Happy Father’s Day!” celebrate them. ❤

 

4. What was the most valuable thing he taught you?

Listening to him preach 3 times a week, he taught me everything about God and the Bible.

 

5. What is one thing he does that you would never do?

I would never get up in front of thousands of people and preach! I have horrible stage fright and have always been extremely shy.

*I have been coming out of my shyness though 😉

 

6. How do you honor him on Father’s Day?

A nice card and nice gifts. 

 

7. How has your relationship with him impacted the person/parent you are today?

Because of my father’s lack of emotion and affection towards me, I have pushed the “father-daughter” relationship with my girls. It is very important to me that they feel loved and have as much time with the other parent as they want. I never want them to have a void they try to fill. 

As a person, I definitely have “daddy issues”!  My father was emotionally absent. I was not his little princess or made to feel special by any means. My top love language is physical touch. Big warm hugs and kisses on the cheek are not something I get from my father. In fact, I believe that through my life he has stayed away from loving on me because he didn’t want anyone to think he was being inappropriate. I was his only girl and he seemed way more comfortable around his sons. He didn’t have any sisters, so I have to cut him some slack! I have an unwavering belief in God that no man has ever been able to knock out of me. I believe what I believe because of my father

 

This month, I am tagging:

mycreatorscreation

Faith on the Farm

Elijah Holston

By no means do you have to participate, this is just a special tag to reflect on what Father’s Day means for each of us 🙂 I would love to see your posts though if you choose to participate! ❤

Amazed By His Grace, 

Purple Rose 

 

May | Honor Thy Mother Tag

April | Testimony Tag

March | Marching On Tag

February | “What’s on Your Heart?” Tag

January | A Fresh Start, A Blank Slate Tag

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23 thoughts on “June | Honor Thy Father Tag

  1. Dollfaced Writer says:

    You are the BEST daughter and granddaughter. You have the utmost respect and love for people who don’t really deserve it. You follow the greatest commandment given to us with such ease 😭 You’re fantastic in every way and the men in/that were in your life should be beyond proud of you. 🤗❤

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  2. Emma says:

    I really appreciate the heart behind this tag. Honouring my father is something I know I need to do more often. This is a nice, creative way to do it. Thanks for sharing!

    Liked by 4 people

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