May | Honor Thy Mother Tag

Thank you Dollface for tagging me in our May tag! We come up with these together, but she does all the work and makes it come to life. Go check out her post here

Dollface writes, “Hi, everyone! I hope you all had a great April 😀 We loved seeing your testimonies from last month ❤ For this month, in celebration of Mother’s Day, and next month, in celebration of Father’s Day, we will be doing special tags about mothers and fathers, as we are called to honor and respect them.”

Here are the rules:

  1. Thank the person who nominated you to participate.
  2. Link back to the original post https://dollfacedwriter.wordpress.com/2019/05/01/may-honor-thy-mother-tag/.
  3. Use the original featured image.
  4. Copy and paste the meaning of this tag into your post.
  5. Answer the questions.
  6. Nominate one or more people to participate.
  7. Enjoy the rest of your month! ❤

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The Meaning of this Tag:

A mother is someone who loves her child unconditionally, nourishes them, protects them always, teaches them values, disciplines them fairly, and wants the best for them. For that, we should always, ALWAYS have respect for our mothers. They are designed to bring beautiful life into this world and nurture that precious life as God created them to. Mother’s Day is about reminding your mother how much you appreciate her, but I hope this tag will perhaps remind you this month how blessed you are to have a mother at all.

Now, I don’t want anyone getting the wrong idea about this tag. Trust me, I study psychology in college currently and I know there is no perfect relationship with a parent. If you have been abused, neglected, or abandoned by your mother then you probably will not enjoy the idea of honoring her. And you know what? There is nothing wrong with how you feel. She hurt you, and that hurt may never go away depending on how severe it was. Your mother may be an addict, a narcissist, an abuser, a cheater, a liar…the list goes on and on. I am blessed to have the mother I have, because I think of her as pretty close to perfect, but many are not as blessed as I have been.

However, (I know, that’s never a fun word to hear), we are called to honor our mothers. For me, that’s easy. My mother is my best friend and is the most amazing person in existence besides Jesus in my mind. Honoring her is the least I can do for everything she has been through, everything she has sacrificed, and everything she does daily to be the incredible person and mother she is. ❤

But, like I said before, many don’t feel that way about their mothers and the last thing they may want to do is call their mom, send her a card, or give her a present for simply giving birth to them. (Trust me, I have a step-mother and two grandmothers I don’t speak to). So…how does one honor their mother in that case?

Pray for her. What she did or didn’t do in childhood has many ramifications, many of which you may live daily, and exposing yourself to her abuse for the sake of Mother’s Day is not a good idea and I don’t encourage it. What I have learned from dealing with other family members is that it’s okay to love and honor someone from afar. It’s better to learn to love and forgive someone from a distance than to hate and hurt up close. ❤ Don’t be ashamed for doing that. Honoring someone does not mean letting them hurt you anymore. Just say, “Thank you for being in my life as God willed it, I forgive you for what you’ve done, but I am going to love you and honor you from a safe distance.” 😉

May I share some words of encouragement? I know it may make this tag a bit long, but I feel like there’s someone that needs to hear this:

  • Your mother wasn’t kind to you, but that does not mean you are not worthy of kindness.
  • Your mother wasn’t there for you, but that does not mean no one ever will be.
  • Your mother abused you, but that does not mean you deserved it.
  • Your mother lies, but that does not mean you don’t know the truth.
  • Your mother manipulates, but that does not mean you can’t get control back in your life.
  • Your mother loved you as she was capable of loving you, but God loves you unconditionally and will give you the love she was unable to give.

Honor your mother, whether it’s through a simple prayer or a sweet gift on Mother’s Day. If you can’t do it for her, do it for you. And, if you believe in Him, do it for Him. ❤

Dollfaced Writer

Here are the questions for this month’s tag:
1. What is your relationship like with your birth mother, if anything at all?
2. What is one thing you would change about your birth mother if you could? What is one thing you wouldn’t change?
3. Who do you celebrate on Mother’s Day (your mother, step-mother, grandmother, aunt, etc.)?
4. What was the most valuable thing she taught you?
5. What is one thing she does that you would never do?
6. How do you honor her on Mother’s Day?
7. How has your relationship with her impacted the person/parent you are today?

Here are my answers;

1. What is your relationship like with your birth mother, if anything at all?

My relationship with my Mother is complicated. I have learned to stay out of her way. I make sure she is okay any way I can. I’m always here if she needs me and I’m happy to help her. I love her very much and I would do pretty much anything for her. 

 
2. What is one thing you would change about your birth mother if you could? What is one thing you wouldn’t change?

Hmmm… I would like to change the way she looks at everything like it is a competition. I am not in competition with her and when someone compliments one of us, it does not take anything away from the other one. There is plenty of love to go around. People are good at different things and that is perfectly okay.  

“I’m sorry” those are two words you will hardly ever hear her say… ever. I think to her, it means a person is weak if they apologize. I know for a fact that just the opposite is true. I wish she knew that I love her no matter what and nothing she does will make me stop loving her. 

I wouldn’t change her love for Jesus or how passionately she tries to convince others of her beliefs. 

 

3. Who do you celebrate on Mother’s Day (your mother, step-mother, grandmother, aunt, etc.)?

My mother and my Man’s mother. My grandmothers are no longer with us.

 
4. What was the most valuable thing she taught you?

She taught me about Jesus. She also taught me to never start a fight with other kids, but to finish a fight if another kid started it. 😉
5. What is one thing she does that you would never do?

Ruin a party/holiday/other event by humiliating people or starting arguments.

 

6. How do you honor her on Mother’s Day?

I love to buy her gifts. I enjoy getting her things she likes or things to pamper herself. She is a “Girly Girl” and loves pink.

I also buy her a corsage (usually an orchid) to wear on Mother’s day. 

 

7. How has your relationship with her impacted the person/parent you are today?

The good impact: I have a very strong belief in God because of her and my Father. ❤

 

This month, I am tagging:

A New Life

A WRITER’S REALM

Retrospective Lily

Faith on the Farm

Life Lessons From Around the Dinner Table

By no means do you have to participate, this is just a special tag to reflect on what Mother’s Day means for each of us. I would love to see your posts though if you choose to participate!

 

Amazed By His Grace,

Purple Rose

 

Previous Monthly Tags:

April | Testimony Tag

March | Marching On Tag

February | “What’s on Your Heart?” Tag

January | A Fresh Start, A Blank Slate Tag

13 thoughts on “May | Honor Thy Mother Tag

  1. Amy Blount says:

    Thanks for the nomination. You are braver than me. You were honest and looked for the good in your relationship with your mother. I will not participate in this month’s tag for the one reason that the mother thing for me just simply hurts. I will try to post a poem or something for my mother in law who I call mother. God bless you my friend!

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